It has often been said that the way to a man’s heart is mainly by way of his stomach. The way to a man’s image, however, is heavily linked to his appearance. This article will be in the format of big steps and small descriptions in order to avoid dullness or redundancy.
Cultivating one’s image is like pruning a rosebush, it takes effort, vision and reality. By trimming too much, the appearance becomes empty, bland and without personality, whereas making no effort to nurture is apparent when the image is unpolished, confused and without the deliberate, dignified appearance that exudes certainty and acute perception. It is important to understand that no matter how many roses one may remove or how loudly they may call it a plum tree, the nature of it cannot be changed; merely embraced and ameliorated.
The first step is therefore to ask oneself what image is realistic for them.
Many men grew up watching James Bond movies and perhaps even reading Fleming’s original Bond novels. Bond, especially in Connery’s portrayal, proved an archetypal pattern for polished masculinity. While role models and mentors are a terrific thing to have, it is important to acknowledge that what one wears, does, says and has expresses his personality, it does not form his personality. Remember that Fleming had no one but himself after which to model 007, Clint Eastwood used his own image and talents to form his characters, Clark Gable never saw Clark Gable in Gone With The Wind until after its release. It is important to find one’s own individuality and work to develop and form it as it should be formed.
Having covered the background for Step One, we will now begin our list:
Step One: Define the genre of “You”
Ask yourself if you are comfortable wearing dressier clothing than jeans.
If you are then ask yourself what your options are. Colours, shades and styles vary greatly, but are limited to the garments available in your locale and in your size.
Why is ‘size’ in bold? Because if it doesn’t fit, you should not even touch it, that is part of picking what works for you. ‘Skinny Pants’ are ill-advised to everyone, but all the more if you are pear-shaped.
If you want to look like an upside-down beaker, right-side up funnel or ‘Tweedle-Dee’ from Alice in Wonderland and are bottom heavy, skinny jeans can help you achieve this look.
Step Two: Don’t Rule Anything Out
Not just in relation to clothing, retailers too. Vintage shops carry up to 100 years of different styles, some of their clothing is barely touched and not all of it is obsolete. Designers grossly over-state how progressive fashion is because they are trying to sell you their version of someone else’s ancient design [Simply stated: Designers do to fashion, what Dane Cook does to comedy], it is only a matter of time before togas are back in style.
Step Three: Action is eloquence
Three rules about ‘pulling it off’:
If you have to ask, then you cannot. If you say you can’t, then you never will. If you know you can, then do not say it, do it.
Vintage or antique is not the only option, department stores sometimes carry something perfect for you, you never know until you try.
Step Four: Do not live beyond your means, but do not count the pennies
It is important to note that just because you feel that a $3,000 Armani suit with $1,000 Ferragamo shoes and an extra $1,000 dollars of accessories would define you perfectly, that does not mean it is a buyer’s market.
People do not drive Fiat or Opel cars because they were their first choice, they drive them because a Bentley costs more than a small house or a giant cottage.
As with all things balance is necessary. See a suit that is a little more than you had planned to spend? Do you like it more than the one you initially had in mind, how does it look on you and is it really worth it?
Focus more on value than price; if the material is good, it is not made in a sweatshop, it is not costly enough to make your eyes bulge out of your head and you really like it, then by all means, enjoy your new garment.
If it is polyester, made in china, on the lower end of the price spectrum but your face is puckered in uncertainty when you consider the way it looks– Do you really need to hear more?
If you are mature and responsible and you have money saved up, it may be time to take that step. Stop buying yourself $200+ trainers, stop wearing trainers altogether unless you are exercising and make some responsible purchases on your own behalf. Being financially responsible does not mean saving every penny, it means investing rather than buying. This is clearly one of the smaller investments you will experience in a lifetime, but it may just be the first step you will take toward bigger and better investments.